By Tyler Stroup
When I first began working with my client at Pressley Ridge, he was 17 years old and in his senior year of high school. He had recently been caught stealing vapes from a local gas station—ironically after completing a job interview at the same location. At that point, both his family and Probation were deeply concerned. There was a belief that he might be self‑sabotaging to avoid graduating and stepping into adulthood.
Early on, I could see how heavy everything felt for him. His mother was often very critical and openly insulting toward him in front of others, which clearly impacted his confidence and mental health. He shared that he was afraid to graduate because growing up felt overwhelming. Taking on adult responsibilities felt impossible to him, and instead of asking for help, he pushed back.
At the start of services, he was combative and resistant. He didn’t want to engage and assumed I was just another person there to judge or punish him. It took patience, consistency, and a lot of effort to show him that I wasn’t there to get him in trouble or report every minor mistake to his Probation Officer. I wanted him to understand that my role was to support him—not punish him.
Over time, that message began to sink in. Once he realized I was genuinely there to help, he slowly started opening up about his fears and insecurities. He told me he didn’t feel ready to graduate and wanted to accomplish specific goals before moving on to the next phase of his life. For the first time, he was able to put words to what he needed to feel confident and mentally prepared.
Together, we identified his goals: finding employment, quitting vaping, getting his driver’s permit or license, and exploring apprenticeships for a future trade or career. It was a lot to take on, but it was also exactly what he needed to build confidence and a sense of control over his life.
Over the next eight months, we worked through setbacks, challenges, and moments of doubt. But step by step, he made real progress. He secured a job at a local shoe store, obtained his driver’s permit, and successfully quit vaping altogether. Each accomplishment strengthened his self‑esteem and showed him that change was possible.
Most importantly, I saw a shift in how he viewed himself. He became more confident, more motivated, and more willing to face challenges that once felt impossible. He told me he trusted me and knew I was in his corner. Once that bond was built, guiding him toward his goals and helping him navigate his mental health became much easier.
Watching him grow reminded me why the work we do at Pressley Ridge matters. When young people feel supported, understood, and empowered, they can overcome obstacles, build resilience, and step into their futures with confidence.